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Activity, Attention Span and Persistence. Nov/Dec, 2017.
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I have a 9 month old who sleeps fairly well. Not a problem until lately, she wakes up and can't go back to sleep.....
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Kate's Answer

Dear Heather,

You sound pretty concerned so I sure hope my comments will be helpful. Your story reminds me so much of my own first daughter when a few months younger, only she had not yet learned to walk. She had just learned to pull herself to stand. She seemed to be so over-stimulated by this new learning that she literally stood up in her crib while asleep. When she did this she woke herself up and was in a frenzy. We panicked, too, because she was, as you say, "in a dysfunctional state". My guess is it is a type of over-stimulation from new learning. We tried all the things you did, but eventually had to close the door and let her cry. It stopped in a couple of days. I am pretty sure she fell asleep standing up and then eventually keeled over.

Nine months is very young to start walking. Another child I know who did this was so excited by his new mobility (which in a sense he really wasn't ready for) that he walked constantly, wearing himself and everyone else out. Of course, you need to check with a pediatrician that there is nothing else going on. My feeling is that some youngsters are very driven to achieve tasks like walking early, perhaps because they are bright and see what other children can do. I must admit that both families were rather achievement-oriented with these babies and tended to make a big fuss over new milestones. We became more laid back with our later-born children and had fewer of these problems. The two children I have described (my own daughter and the other little boy) are now 20 and 18 respectively. They are still prone to getting over-stimulated, still push themselves to achieve things beyond their year sand are wonderful, bright and well-adjusted young people. I hope you find that reassuring.

Good luck. I hope your little girl settles down soon. Then get ready for the next achievement.

I hope this helps.

Best of luck,


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