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Activity, Attention Span and Persistence. Nov/Dec, 2017.
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A Newsletter About Caring for the High Maintenance Child

by Kate Andersen, M.Ed.
 
Issue Theme: Activity, Attention Span and Persistence
Volume 20, Issue 4, November/December, 2017.


Letter to Kate
by Kate Andersen, M.Ed.

Dear Kate,

Here is my situation. I have a 9 month old who sleeps fairly well (10 hours a night usually). Not a problem until lately, she wakes up and can't go back to sleep. I don't believe it's teething, and she's definitely not hungry. But, the serious issue is that she refuses to take naps during the day. She definitely needs them; after being awake for about 2.5 hours she becomes very fussy, rubbing her eyes, dropping things, falling (she started walking a couple weeks ago), etc. So I put her down for a nap, which she refuses to cooperate with. She has always hated taking naps but would eventually have to give in because she wasn't strong enough to keep fighting. But as she becomes stronger, she fights longer. Before she would sleep for 30 min. on the dot, after crying for 20/25 minutes. Now she cries for an hour and sleeps for 30 min. sitting up holding on to the rails of her crib, with her forehead resting against it. Not to mention the slightest noise starts the whole process over again.

If I try to lay her down after she falls asleep sitting up, it starts all over again. I try to be as consistent as possible, but nothing seems to work. It may not seem like a serious problem, but it is. I've tried to stay in the room and comfort her, but she just keeps trying to stand up, and I'm sure it would drag on for as long as I'm in there. I've tried putting her down at the first hint of being tired; I've tried keeping her awake for hours. It all ends up the same way. Another insight to her personality is that she never sits down! She has to play with her toys standing up with them elevated on something. She skipped crawling because she hates laying down.

There is a lot more detail I could give, but I don't want to waste anymore of your time if you are unable to consider this problem. I've taken advice from many people, but nothing works. Usually it is a mystery to anyone I talk to. I talked to her pediatrician, and he doesn't seem to be concerned. If I let this carry on like this, she will be spending 50% of each day in a dysfunctional state of mind. Thank you for your consideration.

Sincerely,


Heather



 
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