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A Newsletter About Caring for the High Maintenance Child

by Kate Andersen, M.Ed.
Issue Theme: Anxiety and Separation Problems in Young Children.
Volume 20, Issue 2, September, 2017.

Letter to Kate
by Kate Andersen, M.Ed.

Dear Kate,

I have a four-year old (our only child) who is as cute as a button and his father and I love him to pieces. However, he's beginning to wear us down. The thing is that we are very busy with our home business. Mickey manages to interrupt at the worst possible times and to ask for snacks, etc. when I am on a business call. He also has a way of having "accidents" (things falling over) in another room just when I am tied up working on an estimate or contract.

My mother thinks we are being cruel to work from home and "ignore" Mickey. She says we should put him in day care or hire a nanny. But we don't ignore him - we just want him to wait for a few minutes until we can deal with his many demands. We think he's a lucky child to have both parents at home all day. I spend an hour every morning playing with him and teaching him to read. His father spends an hour in the afternoon with him. We give him our full attention in the evenings and we don't accept business calls in the evening or on weekends.

We have had Mickey's temperament assessed. He's moderately active, slow to adapt, highly persistent but low attention span, moderately distractible, positive in mood, high sensory threshold, regular, and approaching. We don't see him as 'difficult' but he is becoming demanding.

My sister has worked from home with two children under foot. She has not had any problems with her children bothering her. I know that parents in other cultures work with their children around, too. Why are we having so much trouble with this? And what can we do about it?


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