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Friendship. January, 2018.
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I have 12-year old twins in special education who have completely opposite learning disabilities.....
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A Newsletter About Caring for the High Maintenance Child

by Kate Andersen, M.Ed.
Issue Theme: Friendship
Volume 20, Issue 5, January 2018.

Letter to Kate
by Kate Andersen, M.Ed.

Dear Kate,

I have 12-year old twins in special education who have completely opposite learning disabilities: she is dyslexic with a receptive language disorder, is very adept socially, perceptive and well coordinated; he is hyperlexic with an expressive language disorder, has difficulty with non-verbal cues, has an incredible memory and loves to learn, has sensory integration issues and has difficulty with sports because of his lack of coordination.

They are complete opposites temperamentally, too, and were in utero: she was more active, almost "bossy" and he was more mellow. They even reacted to different kinds of music. (At the time I didn't know who was where but the behavior of the "right" and "left" babies were consistent when I did find out.) Their issues become magnified as they enter adolescence, especially, because by daughter is developing physically and socially sooner than my son.

Although he knows this is normal, he still believes that he is doing something "wrong". I'm primarily interested in information about resiliency and ways to help my son deal with what is often an inaccurate perception of his peers in specific and the world in general as well as his inevitable self-comparisons with his twin sister. Any information you could give me or suggestions for areas that I could go to for research would be greatly appreciated.


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